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Trees of Christmas past

The golden years, the empty nest, retirement…whatever you choose to call the time of life beyond middle age…can be an amazingly freeing period of re-discovery and growth.  Embracing the reality in which you find yourself – holding on to value, letting go of what no longer works.  I found these words penned some time ago by Alexandra Stoddard, then writer-in residence at Victoria Magazine, to be both life-changing and life-affirming:

“Traditions that were once wonderful should not evolve into obligations.”

1985

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1988

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1991

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1995

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1998

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Tradition for our family:  big tree, real tree, green tree, hung with all the children’s ornaments – hand-made and gathered……….

the children grew and left the nest; the tradition was becoming an obligation.

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Ornaments were passed to those whose small hands had made them and hung them year after year on the tree.

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last year – family heirloom spoons

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this year – vintage salt cellars and shakers

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Do I miss the tradition (and the small hands)???  Yes…in the core of my being………..however – borrowing from Dr. Seuss:

“Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.”

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Family history etched in silver

Silver spoons are on my mind.  I’ve just taken down the kitchen Christmas tree (the longest a tree has ever remained!!!).

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Looking at all these spoons and thinking about the family stories they have to tell….

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……I can’t believe it is my turn already!!!  I am now the grandmother with the young granddaughter who will someday use the silver previously passed down to me.  How well I remember my grandmother, Lena, explaining the provenance of teaspoon, demitasse or souvenir spoon; names, initials, dates and places engraved on some, and the story behind others.  Her words are etched in my memory as surely as the engravings on the silver.

S.E.D.  –  Susan Eliza Downs,

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my great grandmother after whom I am named.

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Lena may have received this spoon to commemorate her eighteen birthday in 1908.

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The following year she was married to George Wallingford Downs.

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Quoting Lena from a note she left with this hammered sterling sugar spoon:

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My sugar spoon given to me as a wedding present – by Edith Goodwin.  1909  LMD

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Lena took her maiden name, Miller, as a middle name when she married.  Her mother,

Mary Elizabeth Judd Miller

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passed this set of teaspoons on to her only daughter, Lena.

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My father’s baby teeth marks in the bowl of one of the spoons.

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Mary Elizabeth Judd Miller also passed her mother’s serving spoon (one of six) on to Lena,

M.A.J. – Mary Ann Judd

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the other five given, one each, to Lena’s five brothers:

Benjamin, Thomas, Bernard, Wallace, and Frederick

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Lena Miller Downs

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and this is just the beginning…..

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